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Are Latvian Girls Agressive When Finding a Man?

fitnessislife 
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#1 | Posted: 24 Mar 2012 05:24 | Edited by: fitnessislife
Hey guys and gals. First off: unlike 99% of the other guys, I'm not here to try and pick up some Latvian girl on a forum (I meet girls via normal channels just fine, thank you). I just want to ask a question. After browsing through some of the comments, it appears the place is riddled with east Indian men trying to find an exotic bride or some such.

I'm not one to post questions on these sort of forums, but I just had to find out a bit about what's considered normal latvian girl behavior. So maybe you latvian girls can give me some advice here?


A bit about me:

Half Asian, Half White from Vancouver, Canada

Just Turned 30.

Live in Phuket Thailand, training full time as a professional Muay Thai fighter

I own my own online company and make really good money, but no one knows this since it looks like I'm living it pretty poor in Phuket as quite of the other foreign fighters do (I train for fighting muay thai 6 hours a day, 6 days a week, and I don't flash any money around).

The Story/Question

There was a really really attractive blond women who would come to our gym with her (I didn't know at this time) Ex Husband who trained at the muay thai gym I'm at.

Anyways, she seemed to have taken a liking to me as she came to watch 3 of my fights at the local stadium and would always come do yoga pretty much in my face as I was doing private training sessions with my trainer during the afternoon. She started a conversation with me at some point during the 2 months she was here and ended up mentioning she was not married to the guy she was with (her ex) and they are only friends now. Apparently, he invited her down for a month or two to see if they could work out their issues and get back together, but she basically said there was no way it was going to happen at this point.

About Her
She's a lawyer from Latvia, about 28, and has been divorced for a year or so and has had a few boyfriends since then, including some billionaire who she wasn't really in to and broke it off. She's huge into fitness, and does yoga, runs one or twice a day, lifts weight, and counts every calorie (probably why she was at a Muay Thai training camp with her ex, though she never trained, she did weights and yoga there). She looks amazing (and she knows it). I like the fit type of girls, since I myself am very fit, training 6 or so hours every day, 6 days a week. I've got a great body from all my training and I love women who have great bodies too.

She ended up finding me and adding me on facebook after the very first conversation we had, then sending me messages asking how I'm doing, to which I replied. I actually was very attracted her from the start, but never made a move to talk to her or anything as I thought she was married to one of the guys from my gym.

Anyways, this correspondence continued on few a few weeks, with her being not so subtle about flirting. We'd talk via facebook, then occasionally hang out in person.

Now I am not used to girls being so...aggressive. It's usually the man who hunts the woman, but not the other way around! This kind of threw me off, since it's not that common (at least in North America) for this to happen. Girls will put out signals sure, but this woman was very forward about how she felt about me; a go getter who knows what she wants and will go for it. I like that, as it's pretty rare in a woman.

Anyways, she showed up alone (without the ex thank god) cabbing 45 minutes to watch another one of my fights a couple weeks ago, so I asked her out for some drinks. We had a good time (unfortunately her ex husband is quite jealous and ruined to mood by just showing up in the middle of it).

The next day, she basically sent me a message saying she's had a huge crush on me for a month or so while watching me train and even more after we've been chatting and hanging out and she's now really confused since she's going back to latvia in a few days, and she hasn't felt the way she feels about me in a long time. She said she just wanted to throw that out there since she believes in not missing opportunities.

Well, this was kind of mind boggling for me, since any woman saying this FIRST in a relationship basically gives the guy the upper hand. We met up and hung out at a bar, then made out and stuff. We spent a few more days together like this before she had to leave a few days ago. Basically, she didn't want to leave and will be coming back in a few months. By the time she left we were seeing each other I suppose you could say.

There was the issue of her jealous ex husband during her stay here (and the fact that he also trains at my gym) and I can say that was absolutely no fun to deal with and he kept interfering when we'd hang out. I think he feels I stole his wife (or ex wife actually) from him, but she was not getting back with him anyways. I've seen him down here as well and the guy is a relentless in sleeping with the local prostitutes, so he's a bit of a scum bag. Nice guy to talk to, but maybe not to be married to. I take it the quality of men in Latvia is a mixed bag?

Anyways, she left a few days ago (could not extend her stay because of her job -- she's already taken 2 months off), but as soon as she got back to Latvia, she contacted me via facebook, says she misses me. She even sent me some song in Russian that means I miss you or something. Basically, she sends me messages every day.


Question?

Now, I'm trying to figure out why she wants me so bad and was so forward about it. She would absolutely have no problem finding any guy she wants, back in Latvia or any other part (she's traveled all around Europe as well and even places like New York). She could find some guy with a ton of money and be happy or whatever. So i'm not sure why she's centered on me here. Frankly, picking a guy who's living in Thailand, training muay thai is not a smart move, or a logical choice for any woman to make. Now I actually have a great online business (I make close to 200k a year with my business) but absolutely no one knows this, certainly not this girl (you get the wrong sort of girls if they know this stuff).

1. I never told her how much I make or anything like that. She has her own great career back home, owns her own apartment, etc. So this can't be an issue of money for her. As far as she knows, I'm average income level or even poor. I don't drive a car or live in a fancy apartment here in thailand.

2. It can't be my passport? She's got a EU passport, which as far as I'm concerned, is better than my Canadian one. I'd actually gladly trade my canadian for a EU one! So this can't be an issue of me being a "sponsor" to some poor Ukrainian girl thank god.

3. Maybe she's attracted to the fighter types? Muay Thai is a vicious sport, and the guys who fight are tough as nails. Some girls like that sort of thing. She did come to 3 of my fights. But I don't know, the last fight she could barely watch it and was crying during part of the fight when I got elbowed in the face. So it's not like she's got a "thing" for fighting or anything like that.

4. My looks? She made it VERY clear she's very attracted to me. I am a very good looking guy and combined with being pretty ripped from all the training I do for muay thai, most women really find me quite attractive. But really, good looking guys are a dime a dozen, so that can't be it. Maybe it's because I have some sort of exotic look to Latvians (mixed asian and white ancestry maybe?)

5. We do share a lot of common interests and she's wild, fun and spontaneous as am I. So maybe we just hit it off on all levels. I don't know. We have a great time hanging out together.

Anyways.....

Are Latvian girls so open with their feelings? Are they usually this aggressive with pursuing men they like? I asked her about this, and she said she's not the normal Latvian girl, that most of them are shy and cold, but I thought I would see what you ladies have to say about that. I need to see what I should do about this. I am really into her and she's really into me (but who knows, she could meet some rich guy back in Latvia and be even happier). I'm not into the long distance dating thing, but if she's really into me and I'm into her, maybe it could work out. I can live anywhere I want to, and I could go to Riga for a few months.

Sorry if this whole question, story is not that coherent. But I'd welcome some advice from you Latvian girls!

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#2 | Posted: 26 Mar 2012 11:48
Wow, an astonishing story and writing overall. It took me about 15 minutes to drive into your letter If you would like to get more replies, try to be short in descriptions. I suppose rather noone is able to read such long postings. Anyway, I'll try to share some of my opinions below.

fitnessislife:
I meet girls via normal channels just fine

Heh, what did you mean by "normal channels"? Just curious.

fitnessislife:
so I asked her out for some drinks

I didn't suppose that people who are training a lot, are used to drink alcohol ;) meaning by the "drinks" you've meant something stronger than a simple coffee.

fitnessislife:
I take it the quality of men in Latvia is a mixed bag?

I wouldn't separate people by "quality". The human is not a thing, I guess, doesn't depend is s/he woman or a man. Regarding the men in Latvia, I must say from my own experience, that there are much bigger amount of assholes than "normal" husbands. But I think, it's the same in the other parts of the worlds. People become just even more different. Information technologies provide the new thinking model of consciousness. People become even more different and each unique of some sort, that's why it becomes even more difficult to find a proper partner.

fitnessislife:
She could find some guy with a ton of money and be happy or whatever.

Hah! Your story just proves that money isn't happiness at all ;) All women are looking for calmness, for happiness and the man who will treat her nice.

fitnessislife:
you get the wrong sort of girls if they know this stuff

Agreed! Knowing somebody has some more money than usual breaks the perception ;)

fitnessislife:
Are Latvian girls so open with their feelings? Are they usually this aggressive with pursuing men they like? I asked her about this, and she said she's not the normal Latvian girl, that most of them are shy and cold, but I thought I would see what you ladies have to say about that.

I'd say since we have statistically less men than women in Latvia, more girls would be opened to "fight" for a man they like. In your situation, it's quite possible that a girl just felt in love with you, temporarily, for some time. I remember my years and I always like trained boys. Especially if you can do fighting, that powers you up in her eyes. Almost all sensible women love to watch how men are fighting because of them ;)

Anyway, anything else I may consider under doubt. For sure each girl or man thinks s/he's a unique person and loves to talk about the others like they would be dumber, colder, less smarter and so on. That's not an argument. Considering what you have wrote, I would say this girl is too ambitious, and since she has everything the person would need for a living, she tries to catch even more new experience.

From your tales, I also could suppose this girl is quite a damned wretch ;) You must be careful with her. I think she likes you exactly because you are mixed with some exotic sort of humans, not usual to Latvia or the men this girl experienced earlier. So you could be just another experience for her. Nothing long term, I suppose.

Have a nice day in Thailand!
fitnessislife 
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#3 | Posted: 26 Mar 2012 16:40
Heh, what did you mean by "normal channels"? Just curious.

Sorry, English slang. It means I meet women the regular way (in PERSON), not posting ridiculous "Hi, my name is James -- I'm White, a bank manager from London, and I'm interested in becoming friends with Latvian girls." on forums. Make sense?


I didn't suppose that people who are training a lot, are used to drink alcohol ;) meaning by the "drinks" you've meant something stronger than a simple coffee.

You're right -- fighters don't really drink. I almost never drink alcohol, unless after I have a fight, which I then take a week off from training for my body to heal. It wasn't coffee

Anyway, anything else I may consider under doubt. For sure each girl or man thinks s/he's a unique person and loves to talk about the others like they would be dumber, colder, less smarter and so on. That's not an argument. Considering what you have wrote, I would say this girl is too ambitious, and since she has everything the person would need for a living, she tries to catch even more new experience.

From your tales, I also could suppose this girl is quite a damned wretch ;) You must be careful with her. I think she likes you exactly because you are mixed with some exotic sort of humans, not usual to Latvia or the men this girl experienced earlier. So you could be just another experience for her. Nothing long term, I suppose.

Good advice there! Appreciated!
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#4 | Posted: 26 Mar 2012 19:39 | Edited by: yuta
You're welcome Let us know how it goes. Love to follow such stories!
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